smart: I'm getting to know this guy that is working on his graduate degree at Tufts, and I wonder if I'll be able to keep this guy. He is so smart, and I feel like I have nothing to offer.Would a smart guy at the top of his college graduating class ever go for an average intelligence girl?You apparently do have something to offer if he's talking to you. Don't be intimidated by people pursuing higher levels of formal education. I don't know about your friend specifically of course, but there are all sorts of highly educated yet socially inept or emotionally immature people running around all over the place. Of those who are part of this group, they can often hide behind their intellect and conceal their problem. "Average intelligence" in, what, academics? Math? Emotion? Ability to communicate? Ability to comprehend politics? Don't think just because you might be "average" in one area that you're average in all areas. It's a fallacy to think that someone with a PhD in astrophysics is necessarily more intelligent than some semi successful music producers who barely made it out of high school. I am reminded of Bernard Kerik. Although Kerik has recently found himself in legal trouble for corruption issues, Kerik was the commissioner of NYPD during Sept. 11th under Mayor Giuliani. Under Kerik, the decrease in crime continued to lower. But perhaps Kerik's larger claim to fame is how he managed to get Riker's Island under control. New York CIty's Department of Corrections is larger than most state prison systems. Back in the 80s and 90s, Riker's Island was out of control. By all accounts, the conditions were horrible, staff morale was probably as low as that of the inmates, finances weren't working out too well, etc. The City hired a number of highly qualified and educated people to run the massive operation. Many of them resigned after failing to do well. These people had graduate level degrees. Commissioner Kerik came in after serving on NYPD as a narcotics detective. He had prior practical experience at a smaller jail system in New Jersey where he performed rather well. With this experience and general knowledge gained in law enforcement, Kerik was appointed commissioner of corrections, a job that destroyed several others before him. Kerik turned Riker's Island around. Kerik got the system working when others could not. Kerik dropped out of high school. It's anecdotal evidence, and I realize that, but the point is you cannot allow the intelligence of another, real or perceived, to intimdate you because everyone has limitations and everyone has something to offer. I'm sure you have something to offer. He can take that or leave it. But even if he leaves it, that may not be a function of his intelligence. People leave others for all sorts of reasons, and the intelligence of either person usually isn't a factor. The only negative comment I could make is to mention statistics that exist somewhere out there which say the chances of a relationship/marriage staying together increases when the level of education of the two people involved are more similar. However I suggest that the problems causing separation in cases where education is not similar is not because one person went to Harvard and the other barely got through community college. The problem may be a matter of culture. A person who went to Harvard is more likely to have come from a certain type of family or neighborhood environment, not to mention perhaps raised to think he or she is exceptionally smart. The person who went to a community college may have come from a far different background, or even somewhat different. This difference may attribute for marital problems, however the level of education is what's cited. After all, it's far easier to track and makes for less expensive studies.Would a smart guy at the top of his college graduating class ever go for an average intelligence girl?Probably the majority of guys would even prefer to be with girls who are not-quite-so-smart as they are!! Generally, guys are not looking for brains... ! They want a good all round package, a nice friendly girl who is not contentious or competitive, someone warm and lovely to be with. Their idea of beauty doesn't always fit in with ours either. Sex appeal is good though! Sluts attract attention, but the wrong type and guys don't stay with them - not the sort of guys you like anyway! So I think you have a very good chance of keeping your college boy. You don't have to be super-smart to land a gorgeous guy. Most guys find super-smart girls a bit scary. If he is letting you get to know him, he already finds you attractive :o) He will love the fact that you think he is so smart. Nothing to offer? That simply cannot be true! I'm sure your friends would disagree with you and give you many reasons for doing so. A man needs love and kindness, support and backing, a comforting word and the occasional hero-worship to boost their rather fragile egos... a welcoming smile when he comes through the door. And there is also some truth in the old saying that the way to a man's heart is through his stomach... so you can offer him a nice home baked cake! Good luck :o)Would a smart guy at the top of his college graduating class ever go for an average intelligence girl?Just because you are not graduating from Tufts does not mean you are not smart. Everyone is smart in their own way and you are too.